All You Need is Love...

Vibka Wallder, 17 June 2013

According to a song by the Beatles, love is all we need and then everything in life will be just fine. That sounds good, but how do we find true, genuine love? As I prepare for our 25th wedding anniversary I notice with some sadness that not all of our friends have been this fortunate and have found their partner for life - yet. Many marriages and relationships have broken up, because one or both partners have fallen out of love or grown apart and cannot live together anymore. So why does marriage work for some and not for others? What is love? What is required to keep the bond?

In his book, ‘Law of the Love’ (Gesetz der Liebe) Billy describes what love is:

“Love is the absolute certainty of oneself living together and coexisting together with everything, in everything, thus in all that exists: In fauna and flora, in the fellow human being, in every material and spiritual life form irrespective of its kind and in the existence of the entire universe and much more.” (GdL, p.4)

„Liebe ist die absolute Gewissheit dessen, selbst in allem mitzuleben und mitzuexistieren, so in allem Existenten: In Fauna und Flora, im Mitmenschen, in jeglicher materiellen und geistigen Lebensform gleich welcher Art und im Bestehen des gesamten Universums und darüber hinaus.“ (GdL, S.4)

Once a human being has developed the understanding and comprehending of what love really is then this leads to a certain ‘perceiving in a fine-spiritual wise’ (Empfinden), which can hardly be put into words. Billy explains:

The fine-spiritual perceptions in the human being in relation to the understanding of a love in any form are anchored in the understanding, living together, feeling for others, fine-sensitive feeling for others, in the feeling of connectedness and the certainty of connectedness. In the human being this leads to a psychical top form (through impulsations of the thoughts and feelings), which is expressed through inner happiness (through joyful light-heartedness), contentedness, bliss, harmony (through a certain equalisedness) and gentleness, which also forms externally and appears as a visible positive. (GdL, p.5)

„Die Empfindungen im Menschen im Bezuge auf das Erfassen einer Liebe in irgendeiner Form sind verankert im Verstehen, Mitleben und Mitfühlen, Mitempfinden, Miterfassen, im Verbundenheitsgefühl und der Verbundenheitsgewissheit. Dies führt im Menschen zu einer psychischen Hochform (durch Gedanken- und Gefühlsregungen), die in innerem Glück (durch freudige Beschwingtheit), Zufriedenheit, Glückseligkeit, Harmonie (durch eine gewisse Ausgeglichenheit) und Sanftheit zum Ausdruck kommt, die sich auch nach aussen bildet und als sichtbares Positiv in Erscheinung tritt.“ (GdL, S.5)
Depending on how strong the love is in its above-mentioned characteristics, the strength of the inner happiness, contentedness, bliss, harmony and gentleness are variable and can be higher or lower. So by honestly looking at our own inner happiness, contentedness, bliss, harmony and gentleness we can gauge the strength of our love.

According to Billy there are many variations of love, from the true love through to fanatical-love, submissive-dependency-love, hate-love, passion-love, partner-love, bond-love, platonic-love, memory-love, wish-love, herd-love, universal-love, collector-love, doting-love, and many more. The variations of the different forms of love depend on the factors of the emotions of the human beings and on the understanding of the co-existence with others. (GdL, p.5)

True love and its fulfilment can only happen when the human being fully comprehends that: 

“Love is the absolute certainty of oneself living together and coexisting together with everything, in everything, thus in all that exists: In fauna and flora, in the fellow human being, in every material and spiritual life form irrespective of its kind and in the existence of the entire universe and much more.”

And that means to love the next one (whether human being or any other being in the universe) as you love yourself, or as you expect it for yourself. Our fine-spiritual perceptions must make us realise that we truly co-live and co-exist with every other being. If that is not the case, then we are not capable of true love yet and we are caught in the conflicting nature of our wishes, lusts, greed, delusions and emotions, which lead to different levels of love, based on the ups and downs of our morale and psyche. True love leads to universal love, but as a rule, the human beings of Earth lack the knowledge about true love, its various forms and the fine-spiritual perception of harmony in a state of deferential love (ehrfürchtige Liebe), therefore we often find it hard to discern between true love and the various forms of other love. (GdL, p.9)

In many cases human beings deceive themselves and assume that they are in love because of external appearances, a title, the finances of the other person, certain gestures or movements of the person, common interests, and so forth, and they begin to idealise the other person. Through this kind of self-deception many human beings are led to marriage, which often is the beginning of the end and leads to divorce, because bonds based on emotions and wishes are not stable, and unfortunately, in many cases, the love turns into hatred. (GdL, p.9)

The basic factor of all existence is the deference (respect) and therefore it is also the basic requirement for true love, which is built on respect. Therefore in a bond respect is the key for the love to persist, grow and expand. True love is persistent and grows bigger according to the law of love in the fulfilment of the evolution. That means that true love never fades, never turns to hatred, and is indestructible and loyal, even when it has become necessary to annul the relationship to another human being due to some genuine reasons. True love, once it has come into existence, is indestructible and it lasts even through death and can be continued and expanded in the next life time. Unfortunately, due to overpopulation, the law of reincarnation has shifted and many human beings do not meet again for many thousands of years, which means they cannot continue nurturing the love they may have built up for each other. (GdL, p.55)

(“Andererseits treten sehr viele Fälle in Erscheinung, da durch die unvernünftige Form des Erdenmenschen im Bezuge auf die Überbevölkerung gegeben ist, dass sich verschiedene Menschen durch die verschobenen Reinkarnationsgesetzte währen vielen Jahrtausenden bei Reinkarnationen nicht wieder begegnen und so ihre einst füreinander aufgebaute Liebe nicht weiterpflegen können,…“ GdL, S.55)

True love based on wisdom is simply and solely only this:

A harmonious state of absolute connectedness in all things
in an indestructible form and without temporal limitation. (p. 15)

“Einzig und allein nur das ist wirkliche, weisheitsbedingte Liebe:

Ein harmonischer Zustand der absoluten Verbundenheit in allen Dingen
in unzerstörbarer Form ohne zeitliche Begrenzung.“ (S. 15)

True love based on wisdom is permanent and absolutely independent of the age, appearance and the personality of the human being, whereas with the false or affective love and thus emotional love the above plays an important role, as do material wealth, the profession, the social standing and so forth. (GdL, p. 15)

There are different forms of love, e.g. sympathy-love, friendship-love, platonic-love, bond-love, love for the next one, universal-love, and so forth. Genuine love forms develop in the human being according to the development of his/her intellect and rationality. Once the intellect and rationality decide in favour of the neutral-positive-equalisedness then the way is paved for the creation of genuine love forms. Naturally the intellect and rationality depend on the overall evolution of the human being concerned, therefore the development of the genuine love-form can only happen when a certain level of evolution has been reached. (GdL, pp.16-17)

On pages 18-19 (GdL) Billy explains that in contrast to the genuine love and the genuine love forms there also exists the affective love, that is to say, affective love forms, which correspond to the forms of the genuine love. However, to be precise, the affective love must be described as emotion-love or feeling-love, because these forms of love are created by the human being through thinking and wanting according to his/her visual, acoustic, feeling and sense-based impressions, impulses, information, contents and perceptions. In the development of this type of love, the thinking and feeling play an important role, which means that the human being, through his/her thinking and the thereby created feelings, creates a state which makes him/her believe to be in a positive relationship to another human being. In reality this is fragile, because it is based on erroneously-created feelings, thoughts, wishes and wants. Thus sounds, body forms, voices, manner of speaking, movements, way of dressing, professions, wealth and many more uncountable things can lead to certain trains of thought in a human being which will then cause corresponding feelings and allow affections to arise. The affective forms of love depend on the steadfastness and persistence of the personality of the human being concerned, therefore they are subject to enormous fluctuations in their intensity, which means they go up and down like a yoyo. Due to that they can slowly or suddenly change and turn into anger and hate, which sometimes leads to murder and manslaughter. As a rule the affective love is marked by jealousy, which often takes on quite destructive forms. These things can only occur with affective love and not with genuine love.

The main forms of love important for the human being are:

Bündnisliebe            bond-love
Platonieliebe            platonic-love
Universalliebe          universal love
Nächstenliebe          love of neighbour/love for the next one

They have a special relationship to each other, are clad in special rules of order, and as a whole, find their union in the ‘Law of the Love’ itself. (GdL, p.50)

In this article the focus is on the bond-love. Billy explains that the bond-love exists in the framework of the fulfilment of the duty of creating offspring and to help evolution. This means that a bond-love exists through the true love as described in the ‘Law of the Love’:

Love is the absolute certainty of oneself living together and coexisting together with everything, in everything, thus in all that exists: In fauna and flora, in the fellow human being, in every material and spiritual life form irrespective of its kind and in the existence of the entire universe and much more. (GdL, p.51)

The fulfilment of this law is the basic requirement for the bond-love, which means that, when human beings bond for the purpose of creating descendents and to further evolution, it ought to be in a genuine loving form. And once this bond has been entered into, it must not be broken again for the present life, according to the laws and recommendations of bonds as described in the ‘Law of the Love’ and in ‘Genesis’.

Certain natural laws have been included in the law of love in regards to the bond-love. It states that between a man and woman only ever monogamy can exist, which the human being of Earth has misinterpreted due to his/her unknowledge. Monogamy, one-marriage or one-bond, does not mean that the knot can only be tied once. It truly means that the bond between man and woman shall be a union, something whole and complete in a unity of positive (male) and negative (female). Thus a man and a woman shall be a unit in their bond. It n the entire universe a positive and a negative complement each other, whereby a positive can handle more than one negative, and in their union they even become constructive, creative and further the evolution. But if two positives meet they become destructive and create an explosion. (GdL, p.52)

In his book ‘And still they fly’, under the heading ‘marriage’ Guido Moosbrugger writes: “In drawing up the regulatory orders the extraterrestrials primarily use nature as an exemplary means of orientation. The universal law of love states clearly and concisely that each male life form, as the inseminating part of nature, is able to mate with several female life forms. For the human beings concerned, this explicitly states that every healthy man may enter into the bond of marriage with several women. Only one man can impregnate a woman in the sense of a recipient, which is why she may have only one bond of marriage according to nature.”  (Moosbrugger, p.34)

In nature we can observe this law, for example you may see a stag with quite a number of does and several fawns living together in harmony, or a lion may have a number of lionesses gathered around him. Therefore one man can tie the knot with up to several women (up to seven); but a union based on true love must exist between the man and each woman, so that there is no difference between any of them.

Billy in ‘Law of the Love’ (p. 51) explains further that the bond is for life, and that none of the women is allowed to ‘mate’ with another man during her life. This may seem unfair to some women, but because human beings have many lives, the sex alternates from time to time in the course of several incarnations, and thus a continual balance is achieved, and there is no presumed injustice. However, the human beings of Earth have misunderstood the concept of monogamy and have created laws that do not allow polygamy, thus nature has been thrown out of balance and the good human nature has gotten very badly out of control, with prostitution, rape, adultery and sex crimes sadly being a common daily occurrence. Also, in the meantime, over thousands of years, the women on Earth have settled into monogamy as it is currently understood, and made it their right, which leads to rivalries that often end up in egoism, jealousy, murder and manslaughter. (GdL, p.54)

The logical solution then would be to introduce polygamy, as outlined in the Law of the Love. But before the Earth humans are ready for it, they must develop Empfindungsliebe, which is love conditioned by the Gemüt. In ‘Genesis’ under the heading ‘The seven recommendations for marriage’ (pp. 133-136) Billy writes:

143. The creation of love conditioned by the Gemüt happens only through an equalisedness of the feeling-thought-form.
143. Die Erzeugung einer gemütsbedingten Liebe erfolgt erst durch die Ausgeglichenheit der Gefühlsdenkform.

144. Thus it can only be created when the feelings and thoughts conform in harmonious equalisedness and neither allow room for an Ausartung in the negative or in the positive.
144. Also kann sie erst erzeugt werden, wenn Gefühle und Gedanken harmonisch in Ausgeglichenheit übereinstimmen und weder einer Ausartung im Negativen noch im Positiven bieten.
156. Human being of the Earth, you shall not join in marriage if you have not created the love based on the Gemüt (love based on fine-spiritual perception) within you and are certain of it.
156. Nicht sollst du, Mensch der Erde, eine Ehe schliessen, wenn du nicht die gemütsbedingte Liebe (Empfindungsliebe) in dir geschaffen hast und ihrer sicher bist.
159. However, if the love in the Gemüt is deficient or non-existent, then the marriage is inevitably doomed to fail sooner or later, because in its unlawful form it cannot find permanence.
159. Ist aber die Liebe im Gemüt mangelhaft oder nicht existent, ist die Ehe unweigerlich zum Scheitern verurteilt zu früher oder später Zeit, da sie in ihrer ungesetzmässigen Form keine Beständigkeit finden kann.

All these laws and recommendations in the books ‘Law of the Love’ and ‘Genesis’ are very detailed, and many people, due to their ununderstanding, may think that the laws are harsh. But they are only the laws of nature, which are of universal vastness and validity and which prevent the good human nature from getting out of control. So it is up to us whether we want to create a paradise and restore order here on Earth. To give us an idea about how these laws and recommendations may work, we can have a look at how the Plejaren have implemented some of them.

Guido Moosbrugger in ‘And Still They Fly’ (pp. 35-36) explains that there are unmarried people on Erra as there are on Earth. Marriage on Erra is normally practiced in polygamous form. The Plejaren base their practice on the creational laws and recommendations: “For example, one man is married to four women of his choice, and each individual wife has her own house. The husband lives alternatively with each individual partner. Of course, this regulation has nothing to do with polygamy as we know it, a harem or the like. Among the wives concerned a loving and friendly relationship exists, just as it does with the husband. All forms of jealousy are completely unknown…. the women in a marriage bond are of equal value with their husband in every respect”… “From a spiritual viewpoint of evolution, the full maturity required for marriage on Erra is not reached until approximately 70 years of age. Accordingly, the bond of marriage is not entered into until that time. As a rule, the Errans practice sexual abstinence until that age in order to give undivided attention to their spiritual development.”…

To get to that stage we still have a long way to go according to Ptaah in contact report 248 in block 7 of the contact reports (pp. 248, 252-253):

100. Die Erdenmenschen werden einfach nicht erwachsen, so ungeheuer viele von ihnen während ihrer kurzen Lebensdauer praktisch unerfahrene Kinder bleiben, die im halbwüchsigen Alter stagnieren, auch wenn sie im Alter von 70, 80 oder 100 Jahren sterben.

100. The human beings of Earth just won’t grow up, so  a tremendous number of them - throughout their short life span -  virtually remain inexperienced children, who stagnate in the  adolescent age, even though they die at the age of 70, 80, or 100 years.

A little further on in the same contact report Billy asks Ptaah, how people on Erra deal with bond-love and marriage

129. Der Vorgang der Eheschliessung bei  uns ist der, dass einem solchen Zusammenschluss zuerst eine mindestens zweijährige Prüfungszeit vorausgeht, während der die beiden zukünftigen Partner weit voneinander und getrennt leben, um ihre Gefühle usw. füreinander zu prüfen.

129. The process of marriage with us is such that a union of this kind is firstly preceded by a probationary period of a minimum of two years, during which the prospective partners live far apart and separate in order to test their feelings for each other.

130. Danach unterziehen sie sich verschiedenen freiwilligen  Prüfungen und Abklärungen in bezug auf die Ehefähigkeit in allen Bereichen, wozu natürlich auch der Faktor Nachkommenschaft und die Erziehungsfähigkeit der Eltern usw. gehört.

130. Following that they voluntarily undergo various exams and clarifications in regards to all aspects of the ability to marry, to which naturally the factor of offspring and the ability of the parents to educate them, and so forth, belongs.

Ptaah then goes on to explain that the exams are carried out by wise persons or spiritual leaders, and that the candidates voluntarily subject themselves to the testing. If they are found to be worthy of marriage, then those two join in a ‘free marriage’, without an official document. The advantage is, that the partners do not feel chained to each other, and cases of physical violence or killings of the husband/wife have thus since been eliminated. When this system of ‘free marriage’ was introduced on Erra there were a few problems, but for more than 28000 years this system has been working well.

So why does marriage here on Earth work for some and not for others? In the cases where it works it could be that the husband and wife have known and loved each other in a previous life time (not necessarily as husband and wife though) and thus complement each other very well; or they have been fortunate to be compatible and have developed genuine love over time.  It could also be that they just adhere to the wrong human laws, which forbid any other form of marriage, or that their cult religion forbids a separation. (GdL, p.55)

In the instances where marriages or long-term relationships have ended in divorce or separation, it may be that the partners entered the bond based on affective love rather than genuine love, or perhaps they did not take enough time to get to know each other properly and make sure that they really are compatible. This does not mean that everyone who has broken up with his/her partner should feel guilty because they could not make the bond last a lifetime. The fact is that not many human beings on this planet know what true love is and how the Law of the Love works and therefore errors are made. Committing errors is part of our evolution, so there is no blame or shame. But, we have to make sure that we learn from it and from the ‘Law of the Love’ and that, next time around, we enter the bond based on effective, genuine love.

According to “Genesis” it is against the creational law to marry when the Empfindungsliebe - that is to say, the love conditioned by the Gemüt - and the consciousness-based understanding are missing. The laws and recommendations around bond-love are universal laws, but above all of them is found the law of free will. Therefore it is up to us to follow them and reap the benefit of harmony, peace, contentment and so forth, or to ignore those laws and recommendations and reap unhappiness, unpeace, uncontentment and other unfavourable conditions. According to the law of causation, certain life decisions will result in certain consequences, so it is up to us how we shape our lives.



  1. Meier, BEA 1979/1995, Gesetz der Liebe, Wassermannzeit-Verlag, 8495 Hinterschmidrueti, Switzerland [available in German only].

  2. Moosbrugger, G. 2004, And still they fly! 2nd edn, Steelmark LLC, Tulsa, OK 74136, pages 34-36.

  3. Meier, BEA 2011, Genesis, Wassermannzeit-Verlag, 8495 Hinterschmidrueti, Switzerland [available in German only].

  4. Meier, BEA 1989, Contact report 226. Retrieved 07 June 2013, from

    This contact report can also be found in:
    Meier, BEA 2005, Plejadisch-plejarische Kontaktberichte Block 5, Wassermannzeit-Verlag, CH-8495 Hinterschmidrüti/Schmidrüti ZH (p. 457) [available in German only].

  5. Meier, BEA 2005, Plejadisch-plejarische Kontaktberichte Block 7, Wassermannzeit-Verlag, CH-8495 Hinterschmidrüti/Schmidrüti ZH (pp. 248, 252-253) [available in German only].